DEAR DEIDRE: I FEAR my wife is having sex with her athletic and very well-endowed friend. How can I ever measure up? Getty - Contributor I’m
DEAR DEIDRE: I FEAR my wife is having sex with her athletic and very well-endowed friend.
How can I ever measure up?
I’m worried that my wife is having an affair with her well-endowed personal trainer[/caption]
We’ve been together for ten years and by choice have no children. We are both 35. My wife works for an insurance company and I am an accountant. We have a good lifestyle with two new cars and a nice home.
We get on well and enjoy a couple of long-haul holidays every year. My wife has a corporate gym membership and she goes there two or three times a week. She looks great.
She got to know her personal trainer well and he now goes out regularly with her and her mates.
All the girls love him. He’s 30 and he has the biggest penis I’ve ever seen in my life.
My wife got to know her personal trainer well and he now goes out regularly with her and her mates[/caption]
I know because initially I could see it through the Lycra kit he wears in the gym.
I then shared a room with him in a hotel after a charity boxing night we supported.
He walked around naked. He is hung like a donkey — I’m surprised he’s not in porn films.
My wife seems to be going out with him and her mates a lot lately and he’s very touchy-feely with her.
One of our female friends has slept with this guy and says he was the best lover she ever had. I asked her whether she thought my wife may be having an affair with him.
One of our female friends has slept with this guy and says he was the best lover she ever had[/caption]
She said she didn’t know but my wife would always stay with me because I offer her financial stability and this guy won’t earn so much.
My wife no longer seems to want normal sex with me. She wants me to wear a strap-on which is so much bigger than me it makes me feel inadequate.
I don’t want her to stop seeing him because I have female friends too — I’m not the jealous type — but I am worried it may be more than friendship.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Talking to your wife is a good place to start. You’re feeling insecure so ask her how you can improve things between you.
Do you still go out together as a couple, for instance? It sounds as though she’s having fun times out while you’re at home.
When did you last have a romantic weekend away or spend an afternoon in bed?
You have no proof she’s cheating but a man’s penis size has no relevance as to how good a lover he may be.
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